style.uk.msn.com: The dos and don’ts of flirting

Fabulous flirter Gok Wan makes it look so easy – whether he’s talking to a man or a woman, he manages to say and do just the right thing to make them feel good. “And that’s really what flirting is all about – giving the other person’s confidence a boost,” says sexpert Dr Pam Spurr. But to do that, you first need to get their attention. Then you need to make sure your flirting comes across as genuine. And to do that, you need to follow certain rules.

Do love your body. Gok Wan tells his viewers to look at themselves in the mirror and say, “I’m fabulous and deserve to look this good.” We’d suggest taking it one step further. “Make a list of your best physical traits,” says sex therapist Dr Ian Kerner. “Write out the top three in each. Then”, says Kerner, “use those in your morning mantra. So you have something like, ‘I’m fabulous because I’ve got beautiful lips, smooth skin and glossy hair.’ That way, when you talk to a man you’ll be oozing confidence.”

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